Reverse Engineering Life's Struggles
- Melanie Hutton, Innertegrity
- Dec 14, 2019
- 4 min read
How many times do we find ourselves struggling over something—a decision we need to make, an argument with a partner or coworker, some life circumstance—only to bring all of our decision-making awareness to the current moment where we feel confused, unclear, and reactive? We then respond to the external discomfort from this place rather than using more mindful energy for deeper resolution within ourselves and to set up better outcomes? You see, even though we may be in conflict with someone else, the deeper conflict lies within. “The way we deal with the issue IS the issue,” I can hear my teachers say. We can be blind to the inner issue, and even waste valuable time trying to negotiate a solution at the level of the problem and reactivity, without the inner understanding of how to recreate our desired solution going forward. We repeat the struggle over and over again, and remain frustrated, dissatisfied, or even avoid conflict altogether because it just doesn’t seem to accomplish anything.
